Meta Description: Here’s an argument on why being popular isn’t always a good thing and fame should be had, like all things, in small parcels.
The following characteristics are shared by football players, movie stars, politicians, coaches, and the CEOs of significant corporations: all of them rose to prominence for a limited period of time before falling out of favour with the general public.
In San Diego, Norv Turner was fired as a result of his team's poor performance. Tim Tebow was benched in Denver in favour of Peyton Manning, and Michael Jordan was kicked off his high school basketball team, both of which were unrelated. Why? Why? Because they didn't live up to the standards set by the rest of the world. Lance Armstrong and Tiger Woods have both learned the hard way that fame can overwhelm you and lead to some pretty twisted up behaviour on the part of the celebrities. All of these people were well-known celebrities who fell out of favour rather quickly. Even Hollywood's biggest stars are vulnerable to being dethroned. Celebrities such as Tom Cruise, Britney Spears, and Ben Affleck have all been criticised for their acting — or lack thereof — and it is possible that their fame may fade, if not permanently, then at the very least temporarily.
Finally, although celebrity fame may be rewarding, it also has its drawbacks. If you're not merchandising your fame while you are famous, you're finished. That is not a nice concept to entertain, but it is one that must be examined. Being well-liked has its perks, but it also has its drawbacks. No one has to be a celebrity to feel envious of someone else's success; it might be a close friend, a brother, a coworker, or just about anybody else.
Although being popular is a desirable attribute, it is not necessarily the most appealing. In actuality, there are many other characteristics that much outweigh the fact that one is popular. Here are some reasons why fame isn’t always a good thing :
Doesn’t last forever
You may only be famous for a short period of time unless you are Oprah or the Queen of England. Instead of concentrating on how you want to be celebrated during your lifetime, concentrate on leaving a great legacy that can be handed on to future generations by making an effort. Consider how you want to be remembered by the people who have had the greatest effect on your life, and then design your life in accordance with their wishes.
Keeps you on the performance treadmill
A great deal of work and endurance are required in order to achieve and keep popularity. Another way of putting it is that you are only as excellent as your most recent performance. Whatever your profession, whether you're a car salesperson or a great NFL football player, if you're not putting in the effort every week, you're finished. The people-pleaser in you is still putting yourself on the treadmill of performance, whether you realise it or not. Because you are terrified of being rejected by others, you are unable to communicate your true feelings without fear of being rejected. Because of this, you continue to run with no awareness of your true identity outside of your act.
Puts your focus on self
Having constant anxiety about what other people think of you will make it impossible for you to ever relax. You will have to be correct in your speech, in the manner, and composure. To put it another way, you must maintain complete concentration on yourself at all times. The fact is, anybody, even the most narcissistic, may tire of being like this. In order to build empathy for others, you must spend a significant amount of time thinking about the well-being of others. It can be hard to achieve when all you’re doing is focusing on yourself. Being "other-focused" and thinking about how we might pay it forward will make us feel better about ourselves, but it will also help us acquire more of what we desire.
Conclusion
Being well-liked has its perks, but it also has its drawbacks. You are only as good as your most recent performance. The people-pleaser in you is putting yourself on the treadmill of performance, whether you realise it or not. To build empathy for others, you must spend a significant amount of time thinking about the well-being of others. One should avoid being stuck in the eye of the cyclone of fame, or you’ll fail to notice the destruction being wrought around you.
FAQs
- Why is popularity overrated?
Ans: The issue with popularity is that you must always consider what people think. You have to think about whether you're impressing or pleasing them. You must consider if your image is suitable for sharing.
- Is popularity important?
Ans: People who are loved are happier, more successful in work, and even physically healthier 40 years later. But many claim they don't care about popularity.
- Does popularity grant true friendship?
Ans: Having plenty of friends and being popular does not ensure self-esteem. Some individuals choose social prestige above actual relationships. True friends should be caring, understanding, and supporting. Popularity cannot guarantee that.
- Does popularity bring happiness?
Ans: Popularity doesn't equal happiness. According to a new study, having a few close friends predicts how happy and successful kids will be later in life. The research followed 160 teenagers for ten years, from 15 to 25.
- How does popularity affect teens?
Ans: Teens with a large social media following are always under pressure to maintain their “perfect” image and get favourable feedback. Too much time on social media is connected to anxiety and sadness in teens.
